We climb the Piedra del Peñol located in GUATAPÉ, Antioquia in Colombia. And we climbed 700 stairs in 20 minutes! ?

When I saw this photo I had an immediate thought and it was, how did we get to the top of the mountain as a couple despite our stumbles? And my reflection today is precisely on this subject. . . I understood that, throughout relationships, both parties have different expectations, they grow at different rates and in different directions.

I understood that one falls in and out of love thousands of times with the same person and discovered that the most significant thing in my growth as a couple has been two central points:

1. Realize that, when acting from selfishness and attachment or the “I” – not only towards your partner but towards others – that is the most powerful poison in any relationship.

2. Realize that my inner peace is my responsibility and not anyone else’s! What do I mean by this? That I have seen how my husband has had that capacity to love me, from his selfish love, and how I have learned from him.

I have been guided and carried away. In the same way, I have looked for spaces to take care of my mind, grow and feel at peace with myself and with what I do, without expecting that my happiness only depends on my husband and what he gives me. it is a matter of letting yourself be filled with goodness and catching it.

One of the two must lead by example in any area of ​​marriage and the other must have a noble heart to let go. This, translated in my spiritual language, would be like letting yourself be led by the hand of God. Because always, on that climb to the top, you will encounter a strong resistance to not staying together and not being able to continue as a couple, as we experienced when climbing this beautiful peak “La piedra del Peñol”.

When you think you have already faced great challenges, you realize that a new challenge will come with more force and, if you do not cultivate your mind and heart, you will easily fall into what is not, what does not exist, what you cannot control and what is more serious … the disconnection with your partner. So think about those connecting rituals: having breakfast together, talking at night together, reading the same book, playing with your dog together, going childless and creating new memories for posterity. Then, you will feel that you can reach the top of the mountain as a couple!